If you are an ambitious person, it is almost impossible not to feel disappointed every now and then. Great plans bring great achievements, but also moments when you do not get what you expect. And then the disappointment strikes. We live in a world that strengthens this feeling. So you might think it is hard to be one of those successful people.
When it comes to success, most people think that they have their own version of what success is and what does it mean. But in the end, most people reach almost the same conclusion. It’s hard not to feel that the most successful people are the ones with the largest houses, the most expensive cars and those with more influential friends. No matter what you do, you’ll always think that someone has more, and this can make you feel unhappy. The problem is not that you do not earn enough, but that for you what you gain is the definition of success.
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The real success is who you are, where you started from and how far you have come. If you think you are not a successful person, as you think you should be, you probably judged yourself by the wrong criteria. Sometimes you only need a moment to think about what you really did in life. The following indicators will help you figure out whether you are successful or not.
1. You don’t act as if you are the center of the universe
There are some “successful” people who think that they own the world and we are just humble people wondering around. They couldn’t be more wrong. True success requires the ability to feel empathy. Understand that the feelings and dreams of others are just as important as yours and we can not succeed without them.
2. You keep being positive
Hope and optimism are key factors for a happy life. If you always see the good parts of life and learn from each experience, you are halfway there. Nobody sais to stop being realistic, but always hope for the best to come. You will come on top in many rough situations.
3. You know failure is not forever
It is known that the only ones who never succeed are those who do not try. When you fail, it does not automatically mean that you are a failure. Instead, you embrace each failure as an opportunity to learn something and then continue. If you still struggle with this, know that you will never be really successful, not until you learn to accept failure. Your mistakes today open your way to your future success. The best ideas come when you feel the most frustrated and stuck in a situation. This frustration makes you think differently, beyond your comfort zone. Only then you can see the solution.
4. You know how to recognize real problems
Sometimes bad things happen. This is life. For most of us, however, our worst day would seem like a holiday for someone with real problems. Like being able to eat or survive a civil war. Locking the keys in the car, or losing the subway, is not as serious as we prefer to see them. If you have the ability to perceive the problems to their true value, you have thrived a real success!
5. You are not ashamed to ask for help
Ask for help when you need it. Denying help, no matter how much you fight, is a sign of emotional immaturity. Asking for help means you do not fight to prove that you are perfect. This shows that you are not afraid that people will discover your weaknesses and you understand that nobody succeeds alone. Successful people are the product of a collective effort.
6. You understand that life is not a game where success is a fixed amount
Just because someone has won and he is successful does not mean that there is no place for you too. Not everything that was good is now owned by that person. You must honestly enjoy other’s success. If you do that, you’ve added another success to your list. It’s not that complicated, is it?
7. You can see the difference between drama and emotion
Remember the days when a stable relationship seemed boring? When you were bored quickly by anything else than a movie like story. If such a “drama” is now a thing of the past, congratulations. If you prefer stability and meaningful relationships, you have succeeded!
8. You do not care what the others are saying
Maybe you had days in the past when every criticism or bad review affected you for days in a row. Now, all that others say about you just seem like frustrations? It means that you are on the right track and have a successful life.
9. Accept what you can not change and change everything you can
There is a difference between pessimistic and practical. There is a hurricane and you can not do anything to stop it. Only when you accept that the hurricane comes you can start working on mitigating its effects. Assume the responsibilities that come with the change you want to make in your life. It is a great sign that you are a successful man.
After reading this, do you consider yourself a successful person or not? Would you add something to this list? Or maybe exclude some points? What are in your opinion the characteristics of successful people? Let me know in a comment below. Thanks!